‘I don’t mind going hungry if my kids can eat’: Families reveal struggle to afford food during lockdown

Adam Forrest
Becca Archer with her three daughters, given food donation by volunteer Katie-Louise Barber: Nigel Howard

Parents have spoken about the terrible toll the coronavirus pandemic is taking on family life, as the ongoing lockdown causes levels of hardship many in Britain have never experienced before.

While job losses have pushed some into debt and poverty for the first time, parents struggling to get by before the crisis have found making ends meet each week has become almost impossible.

One mother told The Independent she has gone without food for several days to make sure her children have enough to eat, while another talked about being forced to choose between food or heating the family home.

Paula Sarri-Gonzalez, a 29-year-old single mother with three children under the age of 10, has struggled financially since losing her job as a restaurant chef last year.

The lockdown has made life even harder by pushing up the amount spent on electricity and gas at her flat in north-west London. After paying rent and all her bills from the universal credit she receives at the beginning of the month, she now finds she has just £4.30 left over for food and nappies for the rest of the month.

So she is almost entirely dependent on school vouchers available for her oldest two children (£15 per child per week) to buy absolute essentials, and one weekly food package dropped off by the Sufra food bank.

“I don’t mind going hungry sometimes, so long as my kids have food,” said Ms Sarri-Gonzalez. “Sometimes I might have just one main meal for myself in a day. There was one point during lockdown I didn’t manage to eat anything for myself for two days, almost three days. But I always set the table for the children — I keep things as normal as possible for them.”

“It’s so difficult at the moment. So stressful. I’m hoping when the kids go back to school later in the year I can go back to work and make things easier somehow.”

The Independent’s Help the Hungry campaign appeal partner The Felix Project has quadrupled the volume of surplus food it gets out to people in need since the crisis began.

The work remains as urgent than ever. The most recent YouGov poll for the Food Foundation charity shows over 1.5 million people in households with children have been unable to access food for economic reasons during the lockdown.

Sabine Goodwin, co-ordinator of the Independent Food Aid Network (IFAN), said some food banks had seen demand triple compared to this time last year.

Dr Rachel Loopstra, lecturer in nutrition at King’s College London, said: “It’s clear from the data, as well as from trends in food bank use, that families with children are really struggling right now. Watching parents struggle to put food on the table and go without food themselves is devastating.”

Rebecca Archer and her partner — who have three girls aged eight, six and three at home in London’s High Barnet — have found it difficult to afford enough food during lockdown. “The shopping I do is costing a lot more with them at home all the time,” she said.

Once the bills are paid and the main weekly shop is done on a Monday, the couple finds they have about £50 left to get through the week — about half the amount they usually had before the pandemic hit.

The family has recently taken advantage of two £15-a-week school vouchers they get for their two oldest girls, and receive some cooked meals from their neighbour Katie-Louise Barber — a volunteer delivering food using The Felix Project’s supplies.

“It’s been a real strain. Thinking and worrying about money all the time isn’t easy,” said Ms Archer. “I never thought I’d worrying about having enough for the children to eat. There was one point we just didn’t have enough for the pre-paid gas meter, so we had to go without that for more than a week.”

Becca Archer with her three daughters, given a food donation by volunteer Katie-Louise Barber (Nigel Howard)

The Trussell Trust, which runs the country’s biggest network of food banks, has warned food charities cannot cope “indefinitely” with the huge spike in demand for help caused by the pandemic.


A coalition of anti-poverty charities had written to the chancellor asking for an emergency income support scheme that would increase child benefits and end the five-week wait for initial universal credit payments.

Anthony Cotterill, leader of the Salvation Army in the UK, warned: “It’s years since we have seen poverty to be such a real and present danger for so many people. We are approaching a poverty tipping point.”

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