Allison Kimmey is a social media influencer, known to her more than 180,000 followers for sharing stories and photos from what she calls her self-love journey. Starting with letting go of an unhealthy obsession with her body nearly five years ago, Kimmey has documented the process of learning to love herself, which has resulted in her throwing out the scale and having fluctuating weight. But now, her husband, Ted, is speaking out on her platform to share his side of the journey, as he’s stuck by Allison’s side, regardless of her shape or size.
Addressing a plethora of comments and questions from followers about how to go through weight gain with a significant other, Allison decided to hand the post over to Ted so that he could express his feelings regarding his wife’s struggle throughout their near-decade-long marriage. Alongside a slideshow of photos that show the pair evolving from the time they met at age 15 until now, nearly 16 years later, his heartfelt note leads to one conclusion: Whether Allison is a size 4 or size 18, her husband loves her unconditionally.
“I love my wife, I really do,” Ted wrote. “Well at least I thought I did, until she fell in love with herself and gained some weight. What happened next is something I didn’t even realize was possible — I fell even more in love with her!”
Ted explains that his growing love for his wife — having nothing to do with the weight that she was gaining, or losing — was a result of her greater appreciation of herself and the things in her life that she loves.
“She’s truly happy,” he continued. “As the rock of our family, this leads to a positive home environment and a lot of smiles/dancing/laughter in the household. We rarely have a bad day. She’s found herself and her passion — as a leader and parent, I could not ask for a better role model and mother for our daughter and son.”
And although Allison knew all of this herself, she tells Yahoo Lifestyle why it was so important for others to hear those words from him.
“As humans we want to be accepted, and part of that is being desired,” she says. “In a society that tells us that fat is the worst thing we can be, it is an anomaly to see a couple that is thriving despite any physical changes.”
But more important, Ted didn’t even understand why people would believe that any feelings would change because of the physical.
“He didn’t particularly understand the question I wanted him to answer,” she continues, “because for him it was never a question of whether or not my body would change the way he felt about me.”
However, his unfiltered words of love and appreciation for his wife, despite what she’s been through mentally, emotionally, and physically during this journey, have already provided followers with positive reinforcement about their own selves and relationships.
“I soooo needed to read this,” one follower commented. “Sometimes I wonder if my fiancé will still look at me the same after kids/weight gain and this just takes all my worry away!! I’ll just do me.”
For Allison Kimmey, being pregnant with her children marked two of the many major weight gains she faced that she immediately tried to rectify with what she calls “yo-yo” dieting. But she now hopes that her husband’s statement allows followers to see that experiences, such as giving birth to beautiful kids, aren’t about being “attractive.”
“Becoming enlightened about who we are underneath all of the shoulds and shouldn’ts of society opens us up to the mental and spiritual clarity that can only come from finding unconditional self-love,” Allison explains. “I hope that women, and their partners, are able to read this and start a conversation within themselves that says, ‘I am worthy and deserving of the love I so freely give to others.’”
And between two people who can garner that love for themselves, Allison and Ted agree that the relationship can only grow and get better.
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