If you’ve been cheated on by a partner, Jada Pinkett Smith wants you to stop being so hard on yourself.
In an Instagram video posted on Sunday morning, Smith revealed her message for anyone whose partner has been unfaithful.
“To my queens out there that have been cheated on by their men: It’s not your fault. Stop making it your fault,” Pinkett Smith said in the video. “To my kings out there that have been cheated on by their women: Stop making it your fault. Yes, women cheat too.”
Most of us come into relationships with a bunch of traumas and high expectations. Traumas and expectations can be a painful mix because it’s our traumas, and the false beliefs they create, that keep us from offering our best to ourselves and others. We are all a bunch of open wounds slamming into each other all day … everyday. Successful relating is not for the weak at heart. This is why I believe… relationships ARE a spiritual endeavor🌸 #selfmastery
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Pinkett Smith went on to say that relationships and sex are about “self-mastery,” and that cheating can happen no matter what’s “going on in the relationship.” “Make sure you’re with someone that is interested in mastering themselves and everything that they come with,” the Girls Trip actor said in the video, adding that relationships are “a spiritual endeavor.”
As for her own relationship, Pinkett Smith has never been shy when talking about her marriage to Will Smith. In fact, Will Smith shared on Tidal’s “Rap Radar” podcast in July that the two of them don’t call themselves “married” anymore — instead, they refer to each other as “life partners.”
“There’s nothing she could do ― ever ― nothing would break our relationship,” Smith said of his wife on the podcast. “She has my support until death, and it feels so good to get to that space.”
Pinkett Smith also shared in a July episode of her Facebook Watch series, Red Table Talk, that she once thought she had a “sex addiction.”
“When I was younger, I definitely think I had a sex addiction of some kind, yes, that everything could be fixed by sex,” Pinkett Smith said on the Facebook Watch series. She also said that she considered herself having reached “rock bottom” when she found herself finishing two bottles of wine alone.
In addition to opening up about her “addictions,” Pinkett Smith wrote in a June Instagram post that she’s considered suicide in the past. “Mental health is a daily practice for me,” she wrote in the post. “It’s a practice of deep self-love.”
Pinkett Smith has never been shy about her own struggles or her relationship. It’s refreshing to hear a celebrity speak so openly about their personal life, too. No one is perfect, and no relationship is perfect, and that’s OK. What matters is that there’s a foundation of support and trust in place.
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