Kehlani’s coming out story is painfully relatable: ‘The closet was glass’

Lily Wakefield
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Kehlani shared her coming out story on TikTok, and said that none of her family were surprised when she came out as a lesbian.

Earlier this month, an Instagram Live clip was circulated on social media in the singer she said she “finally knows” she is a lesbian.

Now Kehlani, who is “on the non-binary scale”, has told her lesbian coming out story in a TikTok.

She said: “I’m just going to f**king say it, because everyone keeps bringing it up today… Well, it’s f**king true. I am gay, g-gay, gay, gay.”

Describing how she came out to her family, she said she wanted to have a “heart to heart” with them, “and be like, ‘I finally know that I’m gay.'”

But, she continued: “They’re like, ‘We know, duh… Stupid, like, duh.’

“I just feel like, no….like, I want you fall on the floor and [say] ‘Congratulations, we had no idea! S**t! Damn!’

“Everyone’s just like, ‘Duh. You’re the only one who didn’t f**king know. The f**king closet was glass. So I guess I just wanted y’all to know that everyone knew but me.”

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Before coming out as a lesbian, the 25-year-old artist initially came out as queer.

In 2018, she wrote on Twitter: “Cuz i keep geddin asked… I’m queer. Not bi, not straight. I’m attracted to women, men, REALLY attracted to queer men, non-binary people, intersex people, trans people.

“Lil poly pansexual papi hello good morning. Does that answer your questions?”

Kehlani uses “she” and “they” pronouns, but recently told Advocate that she feels she has had “a lot of privilege” as a “cisgender-presenting, straight-presenting” person.

She explained: “I don’t walk down the street and people look at me and go, ‘Oh, I bet she’s queer.’ Or, ‘I bet that she’s into women’, or anything like that because of the way I present.

“That’s all privilege and I think that there are quite a few artists who were truly at the forefront but weren’t able to make the strides that I was able to make being 100 per cent myself because of the way they present and the biases and the phobias of the American public and the world… I’ve been lucky, super lucky.”