Men may be saying mea culpa but are women ready to forgive?

What should slide into my DMs but a message from Rupert Myers — he’d like to make amends.

Myers was the journalist and barrister who was ditched as GQ political correspondent after a series of women complained he had been a pest on the London scene. His offer was this: to give either time, assistance or just join The Trouble Club, the women’s talks club I run — community service in other words.

Should I go out for a drink with him? Should I accept his offer to be part of the solution, not the problem?

The question raised here is not about Myers — no Weinstein but, by his own admission, not without fault. It is one of redemption.

#MeToo and Time’s Up have thrown up the names of a number of men whose actions under the cold light of the media spotlight are unsavoury. As much of it is not criminal, judgment is handed down in the court of public opinion. If that is how people are sentenced, who is on the parole board and when do we grant forgiveness?

In this slow revolution there are men who may be collateral damage, and men who really deserve the public humiliation they’ve received. But at some point we have to patch things up.

Minnie Driver, in a talk in London for The New York Times this week, suggested that men and women should adopt the model of truth and reconciliation committees used in South Africa after apartheid.

This has begun informally. On Twitter a few men have posted under the hashtags #ihave and #itwasme about times they know they’ve done wrong. Brendan Cox, the widow of murdered MP Jo Cox, recently issued an apology over stories concerning his inappropriate behaviour when at Save the Children, which included one significant — and under-reported — line: “In the past I have focused on disputing what I felt was untrue in the allegations, but I realise now that it’s more important to take full responsibility for what I have done.”

Or, decoded, you can win on the detail if you choose, but you lose if you don’t accept that the culture you revelled and succeeded in was rotten.

These are the good signs. Here’s a bad one: former Deputy Prime Minister Damian Green was back on the front pages just eight weeks after his walk of shame down Whitehall, having been judged to have fallen short on ministerial standards, all which followed from Kate Maltby’s original complaint. Rehabilitated by the media, it appears his expertise on Cabinet matters is more important than his reputation for probity.

I met Myers and we had a frank conversation about what happened and how society acts as a judge. We women must now decide whether to grant him redemption. I have yet to make that call.

Forgiveness, as Gandhi said, is the attribute of the strong. The question is whether women have been given the strength to grant it.

Remainers should have chartered a Routemaster to win over the crowds

Oh Remainers, what’s with your fancy new coach? The Brexit Facts Bus, which set out on Wednesday to tour the country with the slogan “Brexit to cost £2,000 million a week” emblazoned on its side, got into a jam within minutes.

As it tried to pull through the streets of Westminster it found itself in a narrow street, nudging against parked cars, desperately manoeuvring its way out.

And that is a perfect metaphor for the remnants of the Remain campaign, which has largely been having a conversation with itself in Westminster.

Where Boris Johnson and Brexiteers succeeded during the referendum in getting out into the towns and countryside of the UK in their £350 million NHS bus, Remain and its successors have got bogged down in its traffic-heavy urban heartlands.

But I also think there’s been a failure of vehicle-choice. Well-fitted coaches are the stuff of overpaid footballers and political campaign buses. What Chuka Umunna, Martha Lane Fox and other Remainers needed was an old Routemaster that would bring out the crowds and make those Brexiteers nostalgic for an old-fashioned Britain — one that still loved finely tuned engines and finely tuned facts — come out and coo over it.

They’ve missed a trick there.

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