'I ruined my happily family in two minutes by trying a DNA test for fun'

Her life was turned upside down (stock)
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DNA testing has become increasingly popular in recent years.

While some swab their mouths to learn more about their genetic health or ancestry, others see the kits as a bit of fun. But this case will make you think twice about getting one done.

On Reddit, a woman revealed how taking a DNA test for a laugh actually ended up destroying her family. It unearthed secrets she may have wanted to remain ignorant about.

Her post read: "I know that everyone is curious about their genealogy and it seems a harmless (and could be useful in the case of genetic health issues) test – but it's also important to remember that DNA testing can unearth family secrets that it serves no one to unearth.

"I saw this in my family when a niece did a 23andMe and found out her father was not her bio-father. The mom was shocked although she had been having an affair, she had made a conscious decision to end it because she wanted a stable family for her child. She had no idea that she was pregnant with the other person's child. She was deeply in love with the man but refused to break up the marriage over it."

The truth didn't come out for 45 years – when the DNA test results came back. And unsurprisingly, it's caused a lot of tension in the family.

The mum was shocked at first but promised to answer all of her daughter's questions. She added: "She encouraged her to reach out to this man. (The father who raised her, and was a great dad, had passed 20 years before.) Unfortunately, the bio-dad had become an alcoholic and died shortly after they connected.

"The daughter has now cut the mother off and hasn't spoken to her in five years. The mother is heartbroken, but understands her daughter's anger and has said: 'I have it coming...it's my punishment.' She is 73 now and this was her only child. Long story – but just to say – running out and getting a DNA test and then sharing the news in it indiscriminately can backfire. – badly."

Urging others to think carefully before making the same mistake, she added: "Maybe some secrets just need to be secrets. My sister will never be the same – she's old and she's now lost the people she loved the most through her own fault - as she says. But, I have to remind her that she's human and humans make mistakes. At this point, it makes little difference.

"Just think carefully and wisely if you get a result back that is shocking, surprising, not what you expected. There can be more at stake here than your curiosity." While many offered their sympathy, others argued it's always better for the truth to come out.

One wrote: "The truth is best, even if it's ugly." And another agreed: A third user said: "I think the truth is best, and being forthcoming with it is the best way to avoid things like this. I'm sorry what happened to the woman in this story, but having your child mad at you isn't a reason to withhold the truth about who their family is. Gone are the days when people can cheat and pretend it didn't happen."

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