Sands UK, a charity that supports parents through stillbirth and neonatal death, has been “bullied” into apologising for using inclusive language on social media.
On Saturday (10 October), charity Sands UK shared details of its support channels on Twitter, writing: “Often the focus of support and comfort is on the birthing parent, which can leave partners or non-birthing parents feeling isolated and alone. Sands is here for you.”
Two full weeks passed before a large group of anti-trans activists dog-piled the post, flooding it with furious comments demanding that the charity use the word “mother” instead of “birthing parent”.
The backlash began on Saturday (24 October), with various “gender critical feminist” Twitter accounts – many of them anonymous – tearing into the charity for using language that was inclusive of same-sex couples, trans, non-binary and gender diverse people.
Sands UK was accused of trying to “rewrite language”, while some Twitter users said they would feel unable to turn to the charity for support because it had used language that was inclusive of LGBT+ people.
Often the focus of support and comfort is on the birthing parent, which can leave partners or non-birthing parents feeling isolated and alone.
Sands is here for you 💙🧡
— Sands (@SandsUK) October 10, 2020
Following hours of sustained abuse from anti-trans activists, the charity issued an apology, writing: “We are so sorry that this tweet has upset some people. Our tweet should have included the word ‘mothers’.
“It was an error and we apologise from the bottom of our hearts. Sands is here for everyone.”
Sands UK has faced criticism from members of the LGBT+ community for apologising, with trans man and father Freddy McConnell urging the charity to “stand up to these bullies”.
“‘Birthing parent’ includes everyone – mothers, trans fathers and non-binary parents,” McConnell tweeted.
He continued: “Transphobes are expert at organising pile-ons. Please don’t use inclusive language and then backtrack. Progress takes courage and we have to stand together.”
Please stand up to these bullies. 'Birthing parent' includes everyone – mothers, trans fathers and nonbinary parents.
Transphobes are expert at organising pile-ons. Please don't use inclusive language and then backtrack. Progress takes courage and we have to stand together.
— Freddy McConnell (@freddymcconnell) October 25, 2020
In a second tweet, McConnell wrote: “The backlash to this isn’t a fear of cis women being excluded. It’s a cynical attempt to erase trans and [non-binary] birth. And to essentialise/police womanhood in a way that hurts all women.”
Journalist Elle Hunt said the backlash against Sands UK for using inclusive language was “disgraceful” and noted that the term “birthing parent” doesn’t deny anyone’s experience – it simply includes more experiences of parenthood.
“This row over the phrasing of a tweet risks jeopardising Sands’ important work,” Hunt added.
Meanwhile, various anti-trans Twitter accounts demanded that Sands UK delete the original tweet referring to “birthing parents” and issue a second apology for including LGBT+ people in its work.
PinkNews has contacted Sands UK for comment.
The use of inclusive language around menstruation and child birth has been hijacked in recent times by a well-organised group of anti-trans activists.
“Gender critical feminists” routinely attack organisations on social media for using terms like “people”, “menstruators” or “birthing parents”.
The issue has become one of the central tenets of the ongoing “debate” around trans lives, with many anti-trans activists insisting that inclusive language erases cisgender women.
The backlash against Sands UK comes just weeks after Superdrug was hounded by anti-trans activists for launching a range of inclusive sanitary products for people who menstruate.
Later in September, an Irish maternity advocacy organisation faced a sustained online attack from anti-trans activists on Twitter for using inclusive language.
The Association for Improvements in Maternity Services Ireland (AIMS Ireland) referred to “pregnant people” in a tweet, prompting a torrent of abuse from mostly anonymous “gender critical feminist” Twitter accounts scattered across the world.