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How to support a loved one who has depression

Depression is a common problem that affects many of us at some point in our lives.

Currently, more than 300 million people around the world are living with depression - and yet there's still a stigma around talking about it.

Despite it being so commonplace, not many of us know how to support a friend, family member or loved one who is suffering.

Here, Dr. Vandenabeele, Bupa’s Clinical Director for Mental Health, shares five ways in which we can do this:

Initiate conversation

Depression can make people want to cancel plans, stop doing things they would normally enjoy, and want to hide away from the world. Ask how they’re feeling and let them know you are there to listen. If they know somebody they trust is there to listen to them, this can be vital for them in managing their condition.

Encourage them to seek help

Your friend or loved one may not think that they are suffering from depression. They may feel they will be able to get over their symptoms without help. But if you think it’s appropriate, encourage them to seek help from their GP or one of the many mental health support groups available. You can even offer to go along to the appointment as support – but remember it’s important not to push them into anything they don’t want to do. It’s also important to ensure them that depression is a common illness, and isn’t a sign of weakness.

Be open

You may find it difficult to persuade them to join you for dinner, a night out or even a quick coffee. Depression can be mentally draining and being out of their comfort zone may trigger panic. Be patient, and let them know the offer stands on a regular basis – they will join you when the time is right for them.

Understand them

Depression can change a person’s behaviour. It can lead to people being irritable, snappy and what appears to be miserable. But this may not be in their control, so do your best to be patient. Let them know that you won’t walk away from them and that you understand.

Learn about depression

Depression can be difficult to understand if it’s not something you have experience with. You may feel more helpful in supporting your friend or loved one if you learn more about the condition yourself. That way you can empathise with them and begin to understand any triggers.

Dr. Pablo Vandenabeele is Bupa’s Clinical Director for Mental Health; bupa.co.uk