Nico Tortorella is on a mission to dispel stigmas around polyamory, gender-fluidity and bottoming.
The Walking Dead: World Beyond star talked to Attitude for their November issue about their identity, polyamorous marriage and sex.
When asked about the stigma attached to anal sex, they said the issue resonates from people thinking that the body part is a “dirty” or “filthy” place.
“I think that is a deep-rooted issue with the body in general, whether you’re male-bodied or female-bodied,” they explained.
Tortorella, who has previously confirmed they are sexually vers, went further to dismiss the notion that bottoming “is not masculine”, saying anyone who has ever bottomed knows “you need to man the f*** up to get the job done”.
“There’s nothing more masculine than bottoming,” they added.
Nico Tortorella is a ‘serial monogamist’ in a poly marriage.
Elsewhere in the interview, Tortorella spoke of growing up in a “sex positive” home, and their “slow burn” journey towards understanding their queerness.
“I think that my own understanding of the binary of sexuality and the binary of gender has transitioned over the years, and I try to more educate than necessarily explain who I am with my family,” they said.
The 32-year-old explained they first told their family they were dating “somebody that wasn’t a girl” aged around 24, when they had a “very serious boyfriend”.
Tortorella is now married to wife Bethany C. Meyers. The pair met in college, starting off as friends before entering a deeper relationship that’s spanned 15 years, but have both explored their sexualities independently from the other.
“As life continued to move forward, the other person was just always there,” they said. “There was this loyalty that never went away, no matter how far apart we were.”
The Younger star went on to talk about their relationships outside of the marriage, describing themselves as a “serial monogamist” in their polyamory.
“I’m married, yes, but I love dating one person at a time. I have a partner in LA that I’ve had for a long time, but I’m not his only partner; he’s not my only partner.
“I think both of those words, queer and polyamorous, are heavily weighted, and they mean different things to different people.”