Yorkshire relationship coach says women should 'date three men at once'

Kayleigh believes that people are often "too quick" to rush into exclusivity
-Credit: (Image: SWNS)


Relationship expert, Kayleigh Castle, 35, has advised women to "date at least three men at once" and abstain from sex in order to avoid becoming emotionally attached before determining who is the right partner for them.

The dating and life coach, from Huddersfield, has spent the last three years sharing her top tips with women to help them avoid mistaking a "chemical rush for a connection".

Kayleigh believes that people are often "too quick" to rush into exclusivity or a relationship. She insists that dating should not equate to sex and encourages women to refrain from intimacy during the dating phase.

READ MORE:Hull man, 70, who 'liked to watch gory videos' found with haul of 'disgusting' images of children

READ MORE:Planning begins to improve and regenerate Spring Bank area

Drawing a comparison between dating and house buying, she suggests that "you have to view the property a few times and check the foundations before jumping into bed".

Kayleigh clarified: "As soon as I say the word 'dating' people think I mean sex. People think I am telling women to sleep with whoever they want but dating is evaluating."

"The reason I tell women to date at least three men at once is women fall chemically harder than men do and become attached. We mistake this chemical rush for a connection. We need time - if you date multiple men at once you are not giving your time to one person."

Kayleigh maintains that her advice is not novel and that older generations used to date multiple people at once to establish a connection. She added: "It is our history as women, go back as far as our grandparents."

"My grandma is in her 90s - back in the day dating was dating, they would get to know multiple men to see which man was a good fit. They realised that it took time to get to know somebody."

Kayleigh suggests if singletons are dating multiple men at once, the 'weakest' men will eliminate themselves over time. She said: "You are getting to know these men, take your time to get to know them because the weakest link will always eliminate themselves over time."

"The only men that stay around is if they truly like you and you have a connection or if you are giving them sex. That is why I say people should not have sex when dating. There is this expectation where people think they have access to my body."

Kayleigh says people are "too quick" to become exclusive which is down to "neediness". She claims dating is like buying a house and people don't rush the process when they are buying the home.

Kayleigh said: "When we buy a house, we go into the house, maybe view it a few times and check everything is working. A surveyor goes around, we don't rush the process - we take our time."

"Do we think other people are viewing the home? Yes, they are, but do we sleep in the bed, no we don't. We are checking the investment of the foundations and checking it is a suitable home. I say to women, time is your best friend."

Kayleigh's dating timeline is as follows - 0-3 months: getting to know each other, 3-6 months: treat him as a friend - the foundation to a healthy relationship is friendship, and 6-9 months: That is when it is like 'OK, this could be something more'.