Yahoo News 'Bridezilla' orders guests to follow her strict 29 wedding rules - including 'no leaving'
A 'bridezilla' has sparked controversy after outlining 29 strict rules her wedding guests must adhere to during the three-hour ceremony. The 23-year-old, desperate for a perfect day, devised a rigorous regimen to ensure all attendees behaved appropriately throughout the event.
Alongside her 25-year-old fiancé, they concocted a solid list of demands covering everything from food, attire, and overall conduct at the celebration. Discussing her rules on Reddit, she said: "The reason for that is because although the wedding is very short, it's very important. Me and my fiancé told all our families and friends we would be having a lot of rules and they all assured us they were fine with it."
Continuing, she said: "At that time we hadn't discussed the rules yet, we just knew it would be very strict. Me and my fiancé carefully chose the rules and in total there was about 30 rules." The bride-to-be was then taken aback when friends and family began complaining about her stringent guidelines, failing to comprehend their dissatisfaction with her attempts to orchestrate the perfect day.
The couple's full list of rules:
Women wear pale yellow and men wear black suits
No children below the age of 12/11
Only seafood & vegan food (They can bring in their own food btw)
No cameras
No wine, alcohol or stuff like that
Don't cut the cake
No drama
No proposals or announcements
No plus 1s (unless I know them)
No blue jeans
Don't ask the bride anything
Keep speeches/vows short
No inappropriate outfits
No inappropriate things
Do not come looking for the bride/groom
No crying (if you do, it's fine, just wipe them with tissue)
No throwing the bouquet
No screaming/shouting/yelling
No talking during the important bits
No surprises
No calling ( if you do get a call, go somewhere private)
Do not play loud music
No inappropriate or crazy dancing
No holding or touching the bride's dress/veil
Don't be rude/inappropriate etc.
You can't leave the wedding unless necessary
Do not give your invitation to someone else who might want to go
RSVP
Do not RSVP if you are not sure if you are coming
To add to her insistence on compliance, she further states, "Me and my fiancé also decided we would only invite the closest of closest family and friends (which would be around 70 relatives and friends at the wedding). My fiancé worked on finding a nice beach to have our wedding in and I worked on making every invitation by hand. The invitation cards included every rule.
"We expected our families to be happy and excited about our wedding but instead we got a lot of backlash." She elaborated on the tension, revealing her mother-in-law was "very angry" about the dress code requiring her to wear yellow, and her brother-in-law couldn't partake in the vegan and seafood menu due to allergies.
She recounted: "My uncle said his children will be very upset that they can't come so on and so on. Basically almost every family member wanted to go against most of the rules and I didn't know what to do because I didn't want to change the rules nor did my fiancé. Time was running out so we postponed the wedding going from one week to two months.
"Our families were again upset saying they already waited long enough for the wedding and said I was in the wrong for causing a 'mess' when I could have just reduced the rules and/or made them less strict and stupid and that they never even knew it would be that strict."
Despite the pushback, she stood firm on her wedding plans. She added: "I tried explaining to them that we are working on it but they don't stop talking about it even sometimes behind my back. They always make harmful jokes about it and the one time I stand up for myself they call me pathetic and that it was all me and my fiancé's fault.
One user reacted to the bride's extensive list of demands, saying: "30 rules for a three-hour wedding, one of which I have to buy and wear a pale yellow dress? I'm not going. I don't wear yellow in any shade well, I'm far too pale for it, and unless I found something in that colour dirt cheap, I wouldn't buy it."
"I can't also cry or leave unless it's deemed an emergency by the bride and groom? The food thing is true. Vegan food does have allergens in, and not everyone likes sea food. The only thing I think is reasonable is no under 12s, especially at a beach wedding."
Another chimed in with their take on the situation: "It's not even a wedding if it has 30 rules. Literally feels like they're holding you hostage to hear vows and then be forced to eat food you either don't like or are allergic to (or have an intolerance to)."
"Not to mention you can't even go without the permission of the bride and groom unless they think it's mandatory. This sucks more because someone could be neurodivergent and they would need to go away because of sensory stuff."
