'My husband wants sex all the time – I hate him but do it keep the peace'

A Mumsnet user has sought advice after revealing that despite their "amazing life", her husband "never seems happy" and "flips at the touch of a switch".

In a post on the Relationships forum, she shared that they had been together "for a long time" and have two children.

"Had a very rough time of it, deaths of parents, mental health issues etc but come through it," she penned. "We both work very hard but admittedly my partner is the main breadwinner and keeps us afloat."

She went on to say: "I know he's not happy in his job, it is a lot of responsibility but he's done it that long he can do it with his eyes closed. However I feel like he will never be happy with anything, there's always something to moan about.

"I think we have an amazing life. No debt, lovely kids, holidays, we do nice things and have fun when we're together. But my other half never seems happy. Seems to flip at the touch of a switch, can't take an alternative opinion. It's wearing me down so much."

The woman also admitted that she's had "literally no sex drive" for some time - partly due to his persistence in "pestering" her for sex, which if he doesn't get, leaves him "moody for days".

Adding to her troubles, she elaborated: "I've always kept fit but I've started training more seriously and my coach is male, plus there are lots of men at the gym. Who I obviously talk to because I'm not rude, literally would have zero interest in having an affair, the thought seems laughable.

"But apparently now I'm flaunting myself at the gym. Now there is absolutely no way I will stop going there and why should I, I'm learning something new and I feel great!"

The woman went on to criticise her husband further, revealing that he had even gone as far as "arranging their lives around when he wants to have sex". When she confronted him with this claim, she recounted that he became "upset" and "stormed off".

She expressed her frustration further, adding: "He's completely flipped come upstairs dragged covers off me and told me to get out, I'm making him feel like he's disgusting pressuring me for sex. He never says anything about me spending all our money. But now here I think lays an issue too, he will not have anything to do with managing our finances. But then throws it back at me."

She concluded: "I'm just really confused if it me that's the problem here! I get he wants sex I totally understand but sometimes I just feel like I hate him and I do it just so he's not in a bad mood! Which is awful."

Several Mumsnet users were swift to criticise his "vile" stance on sex and finances. One woman expressed her revulsion, commenting: "I'm not surprised you don't want to have sex with him he sounds vile. He has a weird view too somehow managing to connect sex with money. I wouldn't want to have sex with him either.

"Balls in his court now you've told him how you feel and why you don't want to have sex. He either sorts himself out or doesn't have sex with you again."

Another user concurred, saying: "He's acting like a toddler having tantrums, and who would want sex with that? I'd ask him to think about what he says before he says it and treat you with respect otherwise you'll have to seriously evaluate your relationship - because this can't be making you happy? And it's not making him happy either. You need to work together not against each other."

Another participant provided advice, writing: "Wanting sex and planning sex is not wrong in itself. but he needs to do things to make it appeal to you. What things do you think might improve your sex drive? A nice weekend away? A romantic dinner or date night? Him doing the laundry and listening to you properly? Tell him what you need."

Yet another user slammed his behaviour too, writing: "He's complaining that you're making him feel disgusting, but he couldn't feel disgusting if there was nothing disgusting in his behaviour, right? He can't handle a hit to his ego and so he's reflecting those feelings back out again. It's a prime example of emotionally immaturity."

The original user later revisited the forum to provide an update, revealing: "I'm ok, I feel like I'm in a state of anxiety all the time though," she admitted. "We actually had to go to an event together. We have not spoken about anything yet, maybe that will happen today.

"I'm just thinking I don't want to speak about it as there will just be a row and he won't be want to understand my point of view. I have made my mind up to sort myself out and then leave so I'm thinking I need to keep the peace for a while."