'I'm a yes mum who lets my eight year old stay up until 1am and buy whatever she wants'

Meet the 'yes mum' who "never says no" to her eight-year-old, buys her whatever she wants and lets her make all her own decisions.

Lorna Simpson, 37, believes children don't need someone "constantly telling them what to do and saying no". She has no rules as she believes Skylah-Faith naturally "does the right thing", doesn't set a strict bedtime and allows her to learn at her own pace.

Instead of refusing her little girl Skylah-Faith's requests, she asks her why she wants something and why she's interested in it. Lorna believes a blanket refusal without explanation is "harsh" and instead opts for communication and understanding.

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A keen dancer, Lorna has bought Skylah-Faith a dancing pole and an aerial hammock, as well as her own gaming set up - because she asked for it. She even painted the front of her house pink for Skylah-Faith.

She also allows Skylah-Faith to have her friends over for sleepovers when she likes. But Lorna says her relaxed approach works, with Skylah-Faith rarely demanding things and able to make "conscious" decisions over what she wants.

She says she made the decision to parent Skylah-Faith with a more gentle approach after claiming she had a "strict, lack of understanding" upbringing. Lorna, a part-time busker and home-schooler, said: "Kids get this experience once and they need to enjoy that.

"As far as I'm aware I don't have rules because Skylah-Faith does the right thing so that's proof I don't need rules as it's written in her essence. I may say yes to staying up till like 12 or one in the morning if she really isn't tired or wants to have longer watching a movie or playing online games. I also let her sleep longer till her natural body clock says so but usually she is an early riser.

"It's here and there I buy her something she wants as she already has what she wants and needs. I tend to buy gift cards for her online gaming.

"I had a very forced childhood - my opinion wasn't asked for and I don't like to do that for my daughter. I had to unlearn and re-learn things - it's one of the reasons I took my daughter out of public school and did home education.

"It's a healthy way of learning and cutting out all this rubbish. Children need understanding - they don't need someone constantly telling them what to do. You let them grow." I like to try and relate."

Lorna, from Croydon, allows Skylah-Faith to make her own decisions and encourages conversations. She said: "So we'll be out, for example, and if my daughter wants something online or in the shop and it makes sense and she's genuinely interested in it - then of course I'll get it.

"Because she has everything she needs or wants she doesn't ask for things a lot. At Christmas shopping time, she realises that other people buy things for the sake of things.

"So she's quite conscious in herself in what she would like and want. She's got that in her to decide if she really wants something. I go with life, I go with how I feel - I just want to cherish each moment."

"I've had no regrets with the way I've brought her up."

Lorna has tried to adopt a balance in her parenting, allowing Skylah-Faith to experience things at her own pace. She said: "There's a lot of communication going on where I get to see how she feels about something - it's a lot deeper than just saying no to things."

"I just mainly go with how I am authentically. I come from very strict parents."

"There was no reasoning behind it. There was a lack of understanding and it felt harsh. There was no patience."

"I think that made me who I am. I'm very understanding and gentle so I applied that with my daughter."

Lorna has some restrictions and has on occasion had to refuse some of Skylah-Faith's requests, but for the most part, allows her to have what she wants. She said: "There's been a few things she's been interested in - like vaping, which I've had to say no to.

"So there are instances like that. I let her look at them but we also did research so she can see it's dangerous and not good and she lost interest pretty quickly."

"Or a really high ride at the funfair - I hadn't seen many children on the ride so I didn't think she was ready for that then. But she's OK with it as she understands the reasoning."

"It will have to be with good reason that I've said no. Her passion is gaming so we're working on getting her a set up."

"She loves dancing too so we got an aerial hammock and a dance pole in her room."

Lorna likes to give Skylah-Faith freedom with her friends but still says she is protective over where she goes. "Sleepover wise - if she wants her best friend over then that's fine but I don't let her go elsewhere," she said.

"I'm very protective but if they want to make their own arrangements for sleepovers at our house, that's fine. She always comes to me and says she wants to do that and I'll double check she's happy doing that and wants to do that."

"I let her have that choice and allow her to feel what feels right to her. It's the flip side to what I had. I want her to be heard. I struggled with my voice for years. I had issues voicing how I felt. My opinion wasn't valued."

"We've all got it in us to flourish, we don't need anyone else telling us how to be. We don't need to be taught to learn as a lot of the things you learn are through your own interests or experience."

"From birth, she's been quite advanced and I'm not going to stunt that growth. But she's still very playful, as she's still a child, but she's very inquisitive and she should be allowed to explore that."