Research reveals the non-negotiable pieces of a Valentine’s Day date

a box of chocolates with a heart-shaped box
a box of chocolates with a heart-shaped box

Valentine’s Day really is the sweetest holiday — almost three in five (58%) actively dating Americans say dessert is a non-negotiable part of their dates.

A survey of 1,000 Gen Z and 1,000 millennials who are seeking a partner looked to uncover the anatomy of the perfect Valentine’s Day date.

And when it comes to the food elements, desserts reign superior (41%), narrowly beating out the entrée (40%) and far beyond the appetizers (10%) or sides (3%).

Ideally, Valentine’s Day dates should begin with flowers or a gift (41%) or being picked up from their home by their date (33%), though 30% of Gen Z would prefer sweet treats, compared to 24% of millennials.

The date should then continue with going out to dinner (59%) or to a movie (33%) and end with some form of togetherness — whether it be alone time with their date (48%) or a goodnight kiss (43%).

1,000 Gen Z and 1,000 Millennials weigh in on the true cost of a Valentine’s Day date. SWNS
1,000 Gen Z and 1,000 Millennials weigh in on the true cost of a Valentine’s Day date. SWNS

Conducted by OnePoll on behalf of HI-CHEW, results also found that eight in ten (80%) respondents plan to celebrate Cupid on February 14th this year and of those respondents, 63% plan to step out, while 20% plan to stay home.

Millennials, however, are looking to go all in, as 31% are planning an overnight getaway, compared to 24% of Gen Z.

58% believe dessert is an essential for a Valentine’s Day date. SWNS
58% believe dessert is an essential for a Valentine’s Day date. SWNS

When it comes to the budget for the Valentine’s Day date, respondents are willing to spend an average of $114 on going out this Valentine’s Day.

For those who are planning to stay put, the top plans are to watch TV or a movie (61%), cook a nice dinner (59%), become intimate (51%) and eat desserts or candy (38%).

49% of participants enjoy a chocolate covered strawberry as their sweet treat. SWNS
49% of participants enjoy a chocolate covered strawberry as their sweet treat. SWNS

And for those who are looking to save some dough, the expected average stay-home date should cost about $86.

“Valentine’s Day has always been a candy-centric holiday, with a sweet gift being the perfect way to show your love to your significant other,” said Teruhiro Kawabe (Terry), Chief Representative for the USA & President, CEO of Morinaga America, Inc. “While many respondents may stick with old favorites, it’s always great to look to try something new to make this Valentine’s Day special.”

More unique desserts include candy apples, cherry pie or key lime pie. SWNS
More unique desserts include candy apples, cherry pie or key lime pie. SWNS

When it comes time to end the date with their favorite dessert, many will opt for chocolate (54%), ice cream (51%) or cake (40%).

Looking more specifically, respondents are likely to choose chocolate-dipped strawberries (49%), cheesecake (45%), chocolate mousse (28%) and even strawberry ice cream (25%).

Other respondents will opt for more unique desserts, such as a candy apple (11%), cherry pie (9%) and key lime pie (9%).

30% of Gen Z prefer a sweet treat over flowers or gifts. SWNS
30% of Gen Z prefer a sweet treat over flowers or gifts. SWNS

Two in five (43%) respondents would prefer a Valentine’s Day gift they can wear, over one they can eat (14%).

Interestingly, more respondents would trust their date to pick out a surprise gift that aligns with their dessert preferences rather than their fashion sense (21% vs 17%).

43% of respondents would rather a Valentine’s Day gift they could wear. Ziyan Yang – stock.adobe.com
43% of respondents would rather a Valentine’s Day gift they could wear. Ziyan Yang – stock.adobe.com

“It’s no surprise that traditional Valentine’s Day desserts, like chocolate-covered strawberries or strawberry ice cream, are a top choice among both Gen Z and millennials,” added Kawabe.

“But opting to try some unique treats, like key lime pie or a candy apple, can be a fun way to add in new traditions and make the holiday unforgettable and personal to you.”

21% of participants would trust their date to pick out a sweet treat they would enjoy rather than something that aligns with their style. SWNS
21% of participants would trust their date to pick out a sweet treat they would enjoy rather than something that aligns with their style. SWNS

Survey methodology:

This random double-opt-in survey of 1,000 Gen Z and 1,000 millennials who are actively dating was commissioned by HI-CHEW between Dec. 22 and Dec. 29, 2023. It was conducted by market research company OnePoll, whose team members are members of the Market Research Society and have corporate membership to the American Association for Public Opinion Research (AAPOR) and the European Society for Opinion and Marketing Research (ESOMAR).