Pupils have been banned from having romantic relationships and hugging at a school in Essex as part of new rules to make them "focus on their learning".
Hylands School in Chelmsford has said they "do not allow" romantic relationships between pupils and that physical contact could lead to "inappropriate" touching.
Parents have been critical of the hands off policy but the school has said most parents and pupils are supportive and that it "engenders mutual respect and encourages pupils to behave professionally as any future employer would expect".
A letter sent by assistant headteacher Catherine McMillan, seen by EssexLive, says they do not tolerate "any physical contact" between members of the school community.
One parent at the school claimed that parents had not been told about the new policy prior to the letter, which was sent on Jan 9, and only heard about it from their children.
'Not teaching students about healthy relationships'
They said: "I couldn't believe it. In this day and age, I agree that inappropriate touching - hitting and punching - of course has to be dealt with. But they're not teaching students how to have a healthy relationship.
"The inference is that you can't touch anyone. Children won't know what is or isn't appropriate, and the ability to empathise with their peers is being taken away. I have a daughter and her and her friends greet each other with a hug, but if they do that now they'll [face being] put into isolation."
The letter sent by the school said that "any aggressive physical contact, hugging, holding hands, slapping someone, etc." would not be tolerated, adding, "this is in order to keep your child safe".
"If your child is touching somebody else, whether they are consenting or not, anything could happen. It could lead to an injury, make someone feel very uncomfortable, or someone being touched inappropriately. While we want your children to make really positive friendships, hopefully lifelong ones, we don't allow romantic relationships at Hylands. Your child is of course able to have these relationships with your permission outside of school."
'We don't want them to be distracted'
The letter adds: "We want your child to focus on their learning while in school and we don’t want them to be distracted by relationship issues. In your child's personal development lessons we learn about positive, healthy relationships and your child can still talk to a trusted adult in school for advice and support if they need to."
The parent added: "Human instinct is that if your friend fell over you might help them up. But now they're having their privileges threatened such as losing their lunch or morning breaks, or even isolation for the day - which is all so draconian.
"There's been a huge outcry from other parents. Partly because of the lack of communication with parents, all we've been told is what students tell us. But it's also such an archaic approach and is not needed in this day and age. After the pandemic, where everyone was starved of human contact, you are now setting everything back. It's not going to help students' mental health either."
Maggie Callaghan, executive headteacher at Hylands School, said: "We work closely with our school community to ensure our pupils remain safe and happy, prioritising wellbeing at all times. All our policies are designed to support our culture of mutual respect and inclusion, and our most recent policy has received positive feedback from parents and pupils alike."