'My husband came back from lads' holiday with STI – my doctor says his excuse is a lie'

A woman has sought advice after her husband returned from a lads' holiday with an STI, blaming it on the "unhygienic environment" in the "third world countries" he visited.

Despite a doctor insisting the infection came from sexual contact, she is convinced her husband of 14 years isn't the "cheater type".

Taking to Mumsnet, she revealed they both tested positive for chlamydia last year, which led her to "furiously ask" him how and where he contracted it. "He sent me articles showing this STI could catch through eyes or dirty towels," she continued. "He stuck to his story and kept saying he didn't cheat."

In what seemed like a test, she said he later suggested a scenario during an argument, which only increased her suspicions. "In one of the arguments he said 'What if I did cheat, I come back to you, I am here with you, I love you. I am always home and in front of you. You have access to all my stuff - phone, laptops, accounts etc'," she recounted.

"So I met my doctor and asked if it [is] possible to get this from non-sexual contact. She said it is highly unlikely but as people of science nothing is 100%. He was willing to help in any way for me to come out of this grief. We had couple of couple therapy sessions before I let it slip by."

However, the woman's fears have reared their ugly head following a recent routine check-up with a gynaecologist in which the subject of the STI was broached once more. She was told: "If you didn't cheat then he did. I am sorry this [is an] STI and [is] only spread through sexual contact."

The woman continued: "Being each other's first there was no dormant effect here. This got me furious and I knew he cheated and manipulated me into thinking he didn't. When I confronted him he continued saying he didn't cheat. When I asked him to swear on our children and his mom, he swore."

His declaration made her "blow up" in rage though, and she demanded he "come clean". Soon after, the husband appeared to contemplate whether something untoward could have occurred while under the influence of drugs.

"He does occasionally [do] drugs/weed when on guys' trips," she continued. "He made some calls and found out while out with [a] few of his friends and friends' friends they did drugs in hotel suites. As he travelled from US he was exhausted and as [an] occasional drug taker (under peer pressure) his system didn't handle it well and he puked and passed out.

"One of friends' friends called a prostitute to the room. The friend he called said 'I saw her doing something to you while you were passed out'. DH [dear husband] said I asked him why didn't you tell me anything back then. The friend said he was wasted and next morning went out of town and then forgot."

Closing her post, the woman questioned whether or not she was simply being "paranoid".

"I don't believe a word of it," one woman slammed in reply. "Sex workers are routinely tested for STIs. He intentionally had sex with a woman and got chlamydia."

A second agreed: "I'm sorry but he is taking you for a fool. He tried to convince you he hadn't cheated and when he eventually had to admit sexual contact with someone else he has come up with a story that puts the blame on other people not himself. It sounds like a load of nonsense. He has cheated on you and more than likely that's what the purpose of his trips with his pals has been for a long time."

After considering the responses, the woman updated her post, confessing: "I don't believe his BS. But putting up because I have two little kids. I hate to be the one breaking the family."