My two adult children fell out over money – now they refuse to talk

My two older children have not spoken to each other for two years. They are in their mid-30s, with spouses and young children. They fell out over money, but I think the real reason was sibling rivalry. I fear this fracture will be permanent and that I will never have all my children at my table for dinner again. It saddens me that the cousins won’t know each other, or their aunt and uncle.

I am close to my siblings and am afraid my children are making a huge mistake by alienating each other. I have let them know my feelings and urged reconciliation, but to no avail. Family unity is so important to me; I cannot believe they have so little regard for it. How can I help them forgive each other and move on? Neither will consider counselling, and both have partners who support their views.

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